When Grief Strikes

When Grief Strikes

These last few days the Lord has taken us down a road we have never been on before. A road of sorrow and grief as we have watched our dear friends lose their 18 year old son. It was so fast. So sudden. He didn’t feel well and then before you could blink he was gone. A bright light of joy, a radiant smile, the apple of his father’s eye. A best friend to my son. He was gone.

As we are in the midst of grieving, my daughter’s best friend lost someone dear to her.  Then a couple days later  I hear of another family where the parents and two children were lost in a house fire. So much grief, so much sorrow!

You never think these things will happen to you. Sure, they happen to other people but not to you. And then the Lord breaks into your life and causes you to stare death in the face.

Where is God in all this?  He is right there, the same as He was yesterday and what a comfort to know that He does all things well. Even when we don’t understand, He not only sees the whole beautiful picture but He has orchestrated in His Providence these things for His glory and His children’s good.

As I mourned with my church family and friends I was struck by how awful sin must be. We were not made to die. We were created to be eternal. It is because of sin that this awful tearing occurs! And it made me consider do we view sin that way? Do I view sin that way?

But in the midst of tragedy I saw grace. I saw a father bowed down with brokenness yet blessing the Lord. I saw a mother with poise and composure giving her son back to God. Yes, deep gut-wrenching sorrow, and grief that only a parent can feel in burying their child. But I also saw worship, submission to God’s perfect will, a desire for God’s glory, and thankfulness for 18 years were the heart throbs of their souls.

The Bible says, it is better to go to the house of mourning, than to go to the house of feasting: for that is the end of all men; and the living will lay it to his heart.

Our family has been in the house of mourning, our entire church has been in the house of mourning and it is my heart’s cry that we will be bettered for it.

How precious the promise of the resurrection of the body is! How beautiful to know that God is the same God today in our sorrows that He has been in our joys. Christ Himself groaned and wept before the grave of Lazarus. He bears our sorrows and weeps with us.  And praise be to His name He has gloriously taken away the sting of death!

“If your Lord calls you to suffering, do not be dismayed, for He will provide a deeper portion of Christ in your suffering. The softest pillow will be placed under your head though you must set your bare feet among thorns. Do not be afraid at suffering for Christ, for He has a sweet peace for a sufferer. God has called you to Christ’s side, and if the wind is now in His face, you cannot expect to rest on the sheltered side of the hill. You cannot be above your Master who received many an innocent stroke. The greatest temptation out of hell is to live without trials. A pool of standing water will turn stagnant. Faith grows more with the sharp winter storm in its face. Grace withers without adversity. You cannot sneak quietly into heaven without a cross. Crosses form us into His image. They cut away the pieces of our corruption. Lord cut, carve, wound; Lord do anything to perfect Your image in us and make us fit for glory! We need winnowing before we enter the kingdom of God. O what I owe to the file, hammer, and furnace! Why should I be surprised at the plough that makes such deep furrows in my soul? Whatever direction the wind blows, it will blow us to the Lord. His hand will direct us safely to the heavenly shore to find the weight of eternal glory. As we look back to our pains and suffering, we shall see that suffering is not worthy to be compared to our first night’s welcome home in heaven. If we could smell of heaven and our country above, our crosses would not bite us. Lay all your loads by faith on Christ, ease yourself, and let Him bear all. He can, He does, and He will bear you. Whether God comes with a rod or a crown, He comes with Himself. “Have courage, I am your salvation!” Welcome, welcome Jesus!”
― Samuel Rutherford


Could we be losing sight of our high calling?

Mother tenderly kissing forehead of her infant baby sleeping in a bassinet
If commitment to our role as a mother languishes, this may be true not because the job is too small or unchallenging, but because our vision is too small. Our dreams for our task may be thin and weak. We fail to hear God’s call and miss the broad scope of the possibilities before us. We focus instead on the routine activities and demands–changing diapers, potty training, cleaning up messes, telling the kids for the fifth time not to slam the door–and miss any sense of a higher calling.

Mothers, look up and look ahead! Ask yourself; in five, ten, twenty, even forty years what will I wish that I had done today? We want to avoid reaching the end of our lives with regret. Look ahead, plan what is important and live accordingly…
Several years ago, I heard a dedicated missionary share what she would do differently if she could start raising her family again. This woman was committed to Christ, and His cause, and she spent her life serving others–so the depth and quality of her life made me sit up and listen when she shared. She said she would stay home more, be kinder to her children, and feed them spiritually.
I too am jealous for the influence I have at this crucial period in my childrens life, to teach him what is good, to enrich his life with beauty, to train him in obedience and respect, to stimulate his eager intellect, to encourage his attempt to try new things, and to play with him, I want to enjoy these years that happen only once and are soon gone forever.”
A Mother’s Heart by Jean Fleming

I feel so constantly my need of renewal in my mothering. This quote is challenging, reproving and encouraging.  I have a long way to go, but I am seeking the Lord for His grace to “be there” more for my children, instead of being so caught up in the next thing to check off my mental list for the day. My children need mama, not just someone to clean, cook and care for them, but MAMA in the real sense of the word.  So, I  need to take those few moments to throw a frisbee, examine a bug, or build a train track.   What little thing can each of us do to show our children that we are there for them today?

Spring is busting out all over!

Spring is popping out all over here in South Carolina! After a very mild winter it came earlier than usual and we have been enjoying some AMAZING weather!  The other day I decided to go out and capture some of the beauty of this season.  Enjoy!IMG_2311.JPG

Don't you love my little photo bomber there?

Don’t you love my little photo bomber there?


A Psalm for the Lord’s Day


Psalm 92  King James Version (KJV)

1 It is a good thing to give thanks unto the Lord, and to sing praises unto thy name, O Most High:

2 To shew forth thy lovingkindness in the morning, and thy faithfulness every night,

3 Upon an instrument of ten strings, and upon the psaltery; upon the harp with a solemn sound.

4 For thou, Lord, hast made me glad through thy work: I will triumph in the works of thy hands.

5 O Lord, how great are thy works! and thy thoughts are very deep.

6 A brutish man knoweth not; neither doth a fool understand this.

7 When the wicked spring as the grass, and when all the workers of iniquity do flourish; it is that they shall be destroyed for ever:

8 But thou, Lord, art most high for evermore.

9 For, lo, thine enemies, O Lord, for, lo, thine enemies shall perish; all the workers of iniquity shall be scattered.

10 But my horn shalt thou exalt like the horn of an unicorn: I shall be anointed with fresh oil.

11 Mine eye also shall see my desire on mine enemies, and mine ears shall hear my desire of the wicked that rise up against me.

12 The righteous shall flourish like the palm tree: he shall grow like a cedar in Lebanon.

13 Those that be planted in the house of the Lord shall flourish in the courts of our God.

14 They shall still bring forth fruit in old age; they shall be fat and flourishing;

15 To shew that the Lord is upright: he is my rock, and there is no unrighteousness in him.