Are you inside a box of your own making?

It’s funny how when we are young we think we know it all.  We have all of our plans and dreams and have our lives figured out.  That’s the time we need to be learning as sponges from the older, wiser ones.  Then when we become the older ones, all of a sudden we feel like we know nothing. Nothing at all.  And then we are called upon to mentor those younger ones who know everything.  Kind of ironic, huh?

Years ago a friend of mine and I were catching up after years.  We were sharing stories of how we met our husbands, our families, etc.  This friend and I had been committed to courtship and thought we knew exactly how the Lord was going to work things out for us. But, as we talked and shared she said something that has stuck with me for years now. She spoke of how the Lord took her out of her “box” and showed her he had a different plan.  He brought her a man in an entirely different way than the way she had envisioned it.

And that brings me to the heart of the matter.  Do you know that I have friends that met on e-harmony?  Gasp! No Christian should be on e-harmony! Or so I thought! (Remember I lived back in the day before email–my husband and I had to talk on the phone- more gasps! So meeting your husband via an internet service? THAT’S outside of my box or used to be) :)


Through my health issues over the years the box I had myself in had to change in many ways because of the afflictions of mommy being sick. But, guess what? Sometimes there is so much more sanctification outside of that box!

I find in Christian circles that we can become prone to boxes of our own making and it beings to bed the question.  Is this the Lord’s box or our own?

Lately, the Lord has taken us out of our comfort box and had us take a different path than homeschooling. After over 30 years in the homeschool world!  Years ago I would have felt there is no way we would go this direction.  But God has a way of showing you that it is not our plans but his.

What if God to show his glory, takes us down a different path?  What if God to show his glory disappoints our dreams, changes our directions, takes us down paths we never thought we would go.

Will we still go?

Will we still glorify him and in faith be willing to go outside of our comfortable box and follow him?

Jesus did not fit the Pharisee’s box.  He did not fit the Sadducee’s box.  He did not even fit the Jew’s box.  But, Jesus says “And he that sent me is with me: the Father hath not left me alone; for I do always those things that please him.”

So the question I am asking you today is, are there boxes you have put yourself in that maybe the Lord is calling you out of?

And here is the harder question: Can you love someone who has gone outside of your box?

Just food for thought….

~~Feeling weary and worn down physically or mentally? Make sure to read my health testimony and some of the things that are helping me on my journey of healing from chronic and extreme fatigue!

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Why I stopped homeschooling…


My parents were pioneers.  Back in the days of having to stay inside during school hours, limited curriculum available, having a backup plan in case the school system showed up at your your door.  It was back in those days that my parents began homeschooling my sister and me.  We were worried my grandfather would have a heart attack because you just. don’t. do. that.  No one taught their children at home. I remember when we lived in Texas being a part of the “Austin T.E.A Party” where the homeschoolers rallied to make this way of education legal in the state.  I loved being taught at home.  And I was always going to teach my children at home.


And I did.

Fast forward many, many years (I won’t say how many) and I taught one, two, three, four, five, six children how to read.  We did A Beka, Bob Jones, Christian Liberty, Mystery of History, Math U See, Saxon and Teaching Textbooks.  We did my own rendition of the Robinson Curriculum, Satellite school, online classes and we did Alpha and Omega PACES. We did the years of just staying close to home and we did the coops, as well as the extra curricular activities. And we loved it.

We schooled our oldest son all the way through. When he graduated he had over 20 college credits already under his belt.  He is now doing college online at home. My second son will graduate from homeschool this spring, Lord willing.


Homeschoolers are my people.  When I walk into a homeschooling convention it is like coming home.  It’s where I thrive.

So if you had told me years ago that I would be putting 5 of my children in a little Christian school nearby I would have dropped my mouth in unbelief.  At first the thought of it made me quake with fear.  I was a homeschooler. But, the more we prayed and pondered the more apparent it was that God wanted us to be considering this option. Oh, I battled.  I battled that swinging between excitement and guilt, relief and fear.  This isn’t what I had planned, it isn’t what I had envisioned.

But, then the Lord gave peace.

It was time.

It was right.

It was a new season He wanted us in.


And so this year we did the back to school shopping, we got the backpacks, lunch sacks and water bottles.  We had the list of supplies like we had seen other kids have.  Now my job consists in checking school papers when they get home, overseeing the packing of the lunches, homework, asking about the highlights of their day and remembering school functions.  During the day I am home with my 3 year old and get special one on one time with him. He is my helper while I do the laundry, clean and cook.  It’s a huge shift…a big change.  But, for our family at this time, a good one.

But, guess what?  I am not ready to give us the title of being a “Homeschool Mom” quite yet.  Because remember my two big boys are upstair studying–even though I don’t see them much through the day, they are still there.  And you know what else?  I loved the description a friend gave to me the other day…it was something like this.

“The heart of home educating your children is having the freedom to chose the kind of education you think is best for your child.” 

It’s really true.  I may not be teaching Matthew his phonics rules, instead I have a helper (and what a sweet teacher she is!) teaching him.  But, I am confident he is being taught a Christian worldview and has a God-centered education daily.  I am still taking responsibility for his heart.

And so I am content and thankful to have this tremendous help in the educating of my children. With 8 children the needs are many, the duties are very diverse and this is good.

We don’t know what the future holds.  I could be back educating my children at home one day again.  But, for now this is the season God has for us.  And if He is in it…then it is good.

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The Noble Work of a Mother



“There is no nobler career than that of motherhood at its best. There are no possibilities greater, and in no other sphere does failure bring more serious penalties. With what diligence then should she prepare herself for such a task? If the mechanic who is to work with “things” must study at technical school, if the doctor into whose skilled hands will be entrusted human lives, must go through medical school . . . how much more should the mother who is fashioning the souls of the men and women of tomorrow, learn at the highest of all schools and from the Master-Sculptor Himself, God.
To attempt this task, unprepared and untrained is tragic and its results affect generations to come. On the other hand there is no higher height to which humanity can attain than that occupied by a converted, heaven-inspired, praying mother.”….. Elisabeth Elliot

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Change.  Does that word bring you stress?  Does it fill you with anxiety?  For some that idea fills them with terror and fear.

But, for others like me, change brings a sense of excitement. A looking ahead with delight and expectation.  I am an ENFP and when I read that my brain type gets bored easily I was like “Yes! Someone understands me!” :)  So for me as a child moving was fun, surprises were fun, spur of the moment plans were exciting and fresh.

What about when the Lord changes a direction of course for us in an unexpected way?  Takes us down a path we had not planned or anticipated.  I am not as good with that.

Or what about when sufferings and trials come our way, and interrupt our plans?  What about if the Lord puts us on a journey we feel we did not sign up for?  How are our hearts then?

“Because they have no changes, therefore they fear not God.”


I am reminded that whatever path the Lord has for us, as the river of Providence winds this way and that…it is all in the hand of the Lord.  And we can rest in that. Whether it is in little daily changes or big life altering changes.  He is in control.

I am reminded of a song I used to sing–

“What though the way be lonely, 

and dark the shadows fall,

I know where ere He leads me

My Father planned it all.

I sing through the shade and the sunlight

I trust Him whatever befall.

I sing for I cannot be silent.

My Father planned it all!” 

And in that I can rest.  ♥

~~Feeling weary and worn down physically or mentally? Make sure to read my health testimony and some of the things that are helping me on my journey of healing from chronic and extreme fatigue!


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