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How to make your children enjoy cleaning

As some of you know I am a bit strange…I love to clean. Yup, I have always been a cleaner. But, with a houseful of 10 and having years worth of sickness I need help! Teaching our children to work and help around the house is an important thing, especially in a large homeschooling family home.  With ten of us things get messy fast and the chaos that can ensure quickly becomes monumental.  But, having ten of us cleaning also gets things in ship shape as well.  I have done many things over the years to make clean-up fun and enjoyable.

When my 4 oldest were little we created a game called “Soldier House Alert”. My little guys would all line up in front of me raising their hands in salute.  I would in a deep voice say, “Captain Gray” please go over and pick up the legos in that corner.”  They then with their serious voice would say, “Yes, Ma’am” and march over to do the instructions I had given them and then returning with a salute for their next job.  I would get the room clean step by step by giving out these orders. They LOVED it!  And I was teaching them how to follow instructions and clean up a room.


Well, my two bookend little boys have never been introduced to Soldier House Alert. So today was the big day.  They went from frowns to smiles over cleanup when the game started.  And when I told them we were finished M said “I want to play some more!”

What are some of your ways of making clean-up enjoyable at your house?

~~Feeling weary and worn down physically or mentally? Make sure to read my health testimony and some of the things that are helping me on my journey of healing from chronic illness
A Wise Woman Builds Her Home


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Are you a coffee bean?



Grandmother Says…
Carrots, Eggs, or Coffee; “Which are you?”

A young woman went to her grandmother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose.

Her grandmother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her granddaughter, she asked, “Tell me what do you see?”

“Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” she replied.

She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they got soft.She then asked her to take an egg and break it.

After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg.

Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The granddaughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma. The granddaughter then asked. “What’s the point,grandmother?”

Her grandmother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity–boiling water–but each reacted differently.

The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.

The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water.

“Which are you?” she asked her granddaughter.

“When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?”

Think of this: Which am I?

Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity, do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff?

Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.

When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate to another level?


CARROT, EGG OR COFFEE BEAN? A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling.

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A Birth Story that is 17 Years Old


At this time 17 years ago my dear mother was driving our van 90 MPH down the highway while I laid in the back huffing and puffing and doing EVERYthing possible to not push. My dear husband was saying to me “Isn’t it a little early for that?” I really did not like that question.

I also wasn’t very kind to the midwife as we pulled up (or rather screeched up) and I told her threateningly she BETTER NOT tell me I was at a 4 or 5. She said sweetly, “Honey you are not at a 4.” They wheeled me in and I begged, NOW can I push!!!?? The midwife very laid-back said “You can push whenever you want” (really?  I had wanted to push for the last 30 minutes!) So I pushed and out came little William before you could shake a stick.  (Please never shake a stick at someone in labor, btw.)

There my chubby, sweet baby lay with HUGE wondering eyes, as calm as can be.

And I was in love.  How can that happen?  I thought my heart was full when I married Steven. Then I thought is was full when my firstborn came around.  Little did I know my heart would become 8 little people, 8 little pieces of my husband and myself, full.

When my dad came later bringing my toddler to meet the new baby. He said “Like falling off a log, huh?” Not quite Dad, not quite! 😌

You know, I have always wondered, how come the moms don’t get presents on their children’s birthday? They sure need to be remembered cause the memory of the labor never leaves their minds. I mean, just go up to any 90 year old woman at a nursing home and ask her about her labors with her children.  And honey, she may not remember what she had for lunch that day, but she sure as how remembers EVERY detail of her labors.  Because thats what moms do.  Moms give and moms love and moms labor.  And they would do it all over again and again.  Because every one of these little humans that God gives us are precious and priceless and worth every last drop of sweat and tears.

You might be in the thick of it with little ones, dear mama.  But, trust me, you will blink and you will be reminiscing of a day that was 17 years ago and yes, even kind of missing it.  A little bit. But, then again having the nearly grown children is pretty great too.


And by the way, I look JUST like that photo still nearly two decades later…ahem. 😜

~~Feeling weary and worn down physically or mentally? Make sure to read my health testimony and some of the things that are helping me on my journey of healing
A Wise Woman Builds Her Home

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10 Ways to Spring Clean your Health!

It’s that time again. Spring! I LOVE Spring! It’s that time when the earth just seems to come alive again. The buds on the trees come out overnight. My strawberries have their blossoms on them. The windows can be open and the gentle breezes are so refreshing. And the birds! Oh, my backyard is like a sanctuary for birds at this time of year! It makes me wish I could identify them all and sing along with them. 😃 I even have a woodpecker or two. Did I mention that I love Spring? 😃

Along with spring comes the desire to start things fresh. Many times people do spring cleaning in their house and purge and get everything tidy, neat and organized.

But, I would like to challenge you that now is a good time to do spring cleaning internally as well. Take a look at the habits that might have built up over the wintertime. Are there changes that you could make as you prepare for summer that would give your health a boost and cleanup from within? So, let’s look at 10 simple changes that could be made for a good internal spring cleaning.


Increase your water intake.

We all know that many of us habitually drink very little water. We fill our thirst with juice, or worse yet, sodas. It has been said by the time you are thirsty you are already dehydrated. Check out six reasons to drink water. Years ago a naturopathic doctor recommended “The Bodies Many Cries for Water.” Have you read it?

– Get to bed earlier

Now those of you that know me personally are laughing because this is one of my worst downfalls. One of the marks of adrenal fatigue is the circadian rhythm being upside down. So it is so easy for me to burn the midnight oil and far, far beyond. But, growing up my mom always told me the best sleeping hours are those before midnight.

– Get outside.

Forget about all the work that needs to be done, then next load of laundry, the bathroom that needs cleaning and just enjoy this weather. There is NO substitute for sunshine and enjoying this weather with your children brings life back into the soul.

– Go barefoot!

We have hard wood floors or carpet and get into our cars and walk on pavement and concrete. But, when do we actually touch the soil anymore? Get out and dig in the dirt, run in the grass and get dirty like you did as a kid. 😃

Ditch the sugar!

The average American eats more sugar than you can imagine. Did you know a sweet potato with butter is DELISH! No need for brown sugar! Try honey in your oatmeal next time. But, make sure you replace your sugar with other healthy substitutes. Beware of artificial sweeteners like saccharin and nutrasweet. I will choose sugar over those nasty chemicals anytime!

– Avoid man-made carbs

You know, the yummy chips, white starches and breads. The Trim, Healthy Mama approach is a very healthy way to go! It helps balance your blood sugar as well.

– Move more

I just joined a gym, but now with this beautiful weather just going for a brisk walk and getting my heart rate up is beneficial. Just tonight I joined my family in a brisk game of foursquare.  My body would rather have curled and gotten on facebook, but spending that time interacting with my little ones and getting my heart beating was the better choice.

-Stop and smell the roses.

Live in the minute. This is a big one for me. I tend to always be thinking of the next duty that needs to be done, the next thing on the schedule that I forget to enjoy that. second. right. then. And I can miss something precious, something priceless unless I slow down and live for that moment right then.

– Laugh!

The Bible says Laughter does good like a medicine. And it truly does. Laughter is contagious too! This website gives you some of the benefits of laughing namely it can strengthen your immune system, boost your energy, diminish pain, and protect you from the damaging effects of stress. One of my favorite laughs is watching Bill Cosby’s description of childbirth.  (Warning, there is one inappropriate word).  Watch it for a good old fashion belly laugh!

-Support your body with high quality vitamins and minerals.

It is no secret that I love, love, love the Plexus products. I have seen first hand what these plant based supplements can do. When you address core issues like blood sugar regulation, inflammation reduction and gut health, it can create a wonderful snowball effect of healing. So treat yourself to a good tuneup inside using high quality products from a company of integrity. And— Great News! Plexus is giving a 15% off your entire order with a coupon code. So email me at plexus and I will give you the code 😉


Have fun spring cleaning your health as well as your home and enjoy this beautiful season! Maybe you are already practicing these things but a good reminder is always good to keep at it!  Do you have a favorite tip you would like to share?  I would love to hear!

My beloved spake, and said unto me, Rise up, my love, my fair one, and come away.
For, lo, the winter is past, the rain is over and gone;
The flowers appear on the earth; the time of the singing of birds is come, and the voice of the turtle is heard in our land;
The fig tree putteth forth her green figs, and the vines with the tender grape give a good smell. Arise, my love, my fair one, and come away. Song of Solomon 2

~~Feeling weary and worn down physically or mentally? Make sure to read my health testimony and some of the things that are helping me on my journey of healing
A Wise Woman Builds Her Home

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