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Where are your eyes?

We now have four additional drivers in our house currently.  My oldest is experienced and independant, my second born  third born as well and my fourth is just learning the road.

We live in South Carolina and for those of you who do not know what that means, let’s just say the roads are twisty, turny, curvy and THIN!  Yes, often these back road make you wish you could put your vehicle on a diet, especially a certain 15 passenger van.

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One of the hardest things for me is the night driving on these small, dark roads.  With the cars coming towards you and the glare shining in your eyes.  We instruct our children, when you get to where you can’t see, just focus on your line on the right.  Why?

Because you turn toward what you look at!  

If you focus on the glare of the car in front of you, your car will automatically pull towards that light.

And I got to thinking, is this not a biblical principle?

We will turn towards what we focus on.  

When Peter walked on water as long as Jesus was in his sight he stayed this way…but the minute he looked at the water, he sank right into it!

So, this begs the question…where is my focus?  Where is your focus?

As moms we can get so caught up in our daily duties we forget to keep our minds on Christ and our thoughts trusting in Him.  We get discouraged, cast down, and fatigued.

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Sometimes this means we have to talk back to ourselves as David did and say “Why are thou cast down oh my soul, hope thou in God!”

When the glare of the world’s discouragement shines into your eyes, where are you going to look?  Where am I going to look?!

~~Feeling weary and worn down physically or mentally? Make sure to read my health testimony and some of the things that are helping me on my journey of healing

 

 

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Why I Wasn’t Going to Work from Home

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I’m a mama.  I love pregnancy, having babies, breastfeeding and snuggles and kisses.  That’s my calling and my first and foremost priority! Ever since I was courting Steven it was our goal that I would be a stay-at-home-mom.  He was blessed to always have his mom there  growing up and so was I—it was important to us that while he was the breadwinner I was his help meet for him at home.

I am so thankful after all these years the Lord has enabled us to keep that vision and kept me able to be at home with my babies! But, there is a problem, this is a two-income world.  The percentage of SAHM’s is so small and our economy definitely assumes there are two incomes in the household. So we have become masters at thrift shopping, finding the best deals and sales and adjusting our lifestyle to cutting costs where we can.  My dear husband has been the best provider and we have truly been very blessed!

I have seen other moms have tremendous home businesses and have admired their creativity and skill.  But, I am not gifted in sewing, crafting, baking, and creating for websites like Etsy and so on. God has given me a love for helping and serving people in different ways.

At one point I was seeking to make money through this blog, but the family suffered.  It became all consuming and the deadlines and competition took the joy away from my writing.  Because the children were the priority and my health was really struggling I took a sabbatical from this blog. My giftings and talents are to be used for the glory of God first and foremost with my family in this home, and anything that tears me away from them in an inordinate way has to be curtailed.

And then, God laid it in my lap and called me to work from home.

I wasn’t looking for it, but it was the perfect fit for me.

I was so sick with adrenal fatigue, depression and all the other things that go along with that  I have blogged about before.  When I was so helped by the plant-based products that a friend shared with me it was SUCH a gift from God.  So yes, I joined but only for the wholesale prices. In fact I told Jen, “I am not doing the home business, I have been sick, I am a homeschool mommy of 8 and I don’t have the time and energy.” She said that was perfectly fine. 🙂

And then it happened.  I couldn’t help sharing, as I researched the WHY of how it was helping me and saw the gold mine — a burden began to grow.

There were SO MANY other mothers like me!!! Exhausted, worn out, mind blowing fatigue, mental fog and feeling like they couldn’t go on! And I HAD to SHARE! It would have been selfish not to.

And so I went back to dear husband and asked him about giving this a go. Unlike some other companies this fit right into the nooks and crannies of my life and it revolves around my family not my family around it. I didn’t have to have inventory, I didn’t have to put out a huge outlay of money, and didn’t have to do ANY home parties!  I had his blessing.  And from then on we have only been more and more excited about this opportunity!  We are even dreaming of the day when my husband could come home (or only work when he wants to) and this will be our family business.

And guess what?  Now my focus has shifted to not only helping people with their health, but with their finances.  You see, far from being like many other companies…it’s real homeschooling, large family, Christian families that are seeing HUGE provisions from the Lord. It’s students and single mamas.  And yes, it’s dad’s that see the amazing wisdom of this comp plan.  Families are getting out of debt, bringing Daddy home, financial freedom!  And what better way than serving others.

So if you have been praying for a way to earn extra income, I would love to share more with you about this company and how it has been a gift from the Lord for us!  email me at sandjervin@gmail.com 🙂

 

Many Mercies!

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I have this itch to write…

It is late  early.  Everyone has long gone to bed and I am still awake.

What should I blog about? So many thoughts flowing through my mind.

Sunshiny days have brightened my heart as curtains flow from the breeze coming in.

I walk outside to pray to my Creator and Savior and hear wind rushing through the trees, birds chirping and it fills my heart with thankfulness for how the Lord brings the seasons afresh.

Laughter of children playing outside, barefoot again, running—free!

After supper outside games with daddy have begun again.  Foursquare is the tradition, but last night it was kickball.

Snuggling my teen girl and caressing her hair, realizing that those touches are very important even when the hints of girlhood are melting away into womanhood.

Delighting in my 3 year olds lisping sentences..simple things “It’s raining, Mom!”  So simple but I hold on to every word like a precious treasure that will soon be gone.  Already Mawhew has become Matt and even though he was late to talk, his toddlerhood is beginning to be a memory.

Strapping tall man/sons make my heart burst as I see these ones taking on the mantle of adulthood…my heart swells with love.

Having contests with my daughter on who can clean the fastest–competition brings enjoyment and fuels motivation, especially to this 10 year old.

Taekwondo sparring in the living room, Chinese jumprope the new excitement as well, and a stick with duct tape becomes an amazing pole for my 5 year old to swing with authority…he loves the shine of the duct tape–it’s like metal.

The evening rain sounds gorgeous through the open window as we enjoy the laughter of friends.

I love my family– My handsome, faithful hero and our 8 children.  Often in the stress and busyness of life..I forget how blessed I am and become weighed down with the cares of responsibility.

And then the clouds of winter start to part and the springtime sun shows through and I am reminded….

So many mercies.

My pastor’s wife loves to give out M&M’s reminding people to that the Lord for their Many Mercies.

So today in the hectic schedule and busyness….just stop.  For just a moment. STOP

Take a deep breath and thank the Lord for your many mercies.

And then go get some M&Ms. 🙂

Share with me some of your many mercies!

~~Feeling weary and worn down physically or mentally? Make sure to read my health testimony and some of the things that are helping me on my journey of healing

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Delighting in our husbands- 20 years later

 

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I used to cry as I watched my husband go off to work in the mornings.  I loved him so much and could hardly bear to part with him until lunch when he would come home for his midday break.  Yes, as a young bride I was lonely without him.

I thought of him throughout the day.  Oh, won’t Steven love this!  I think I will do this for Steven…How long until he is home? I think I will surprise him with his favorite dessert.

I would listen as he talked and if he gave ANY hint of what he liked or disliked I made note of it to remember.  I made it a point to learn every detail of that man that I loved so much!  If he so much as hinted at something that he enjoyed, I saved it away in my mind’s eye.

20 years have gone by since those early days of marriage.  I don’t cry when he leaves anymore.  But, I do yearn and long for him when he is away. Everything is A-OK when he is home.

One thing I have noticed though.  We have 8 children now…18 down to 3 and life is sooo busy even on a quiet day. The days are long gone of wondering how I am going to fill my time.  Keeping the house in tiptop shape and filling the days with extra tidbits of productivity is a thing of the past. No, now time flies faster than we can blink, and the days become weeks and months before we know it.

And so, in the busyness, in the flying days, in the duties and responsibilities of a large family…it’s easy to forget.  It’s easy for me to forget to focus on Steven.  It’s easy for me to not think of him as much through the day.  It’s easy for my eyes to be on everything else, the children, the home, the schooling, the laundry…but to forget to make sure I am delighting my husband.  I need to remember those little (and big things) he loves.  I need to remember that when the children leave — we are together until death.  We have a lifetime bond that is the most important earthly relationship there is.  So, I need to remember to stop and focus…on him.

To remember his favorite dish again, to remember the spot he loves for me to rub on his back, to remember to focus on what is special to him….like it used to be 20 years ago.  And in doing so I am pleasing the Lord who made me a help meet for him.  Did you know that word help meet means “help suitable”.  I and I alone am suitable to be my man’s helper.  So, I am thankful for the reminder I have had of that lately to reshift my thoughts once again to serving and loving the man God has given me.  For in serving him I am serving the Lord!

What are some things that your husband delights in that you could focus on this week?

~~Feeling weary and worn down physically or mentally? Make sure to read my health testimony and some of the things that are helping me on my journey of healing
A Wise Woman Builds Her Home