Upstate Family Doula
Upstate Family Doula is dedicated to caring for the wellbeing of the whole family during the beautiful season of pregnancy, labor, and delivery, as well as postpartum!
I always say I was born a doula. My Birthing Support is born out of many years of passion for this season in a woman’s life, many life experiences (including 8 children), and a desire to serve.
Ever since I was a teenager, I lived and breathed anything that had to do with pregnancy and babies. It might have something to do with the fact that I was at my baby brother’s birth when I was 16. I truly loved it! For my high school graduation, rather than wanting what most girls want at that age, I asked for things like a baby stethoscope, a fetoscope, and a blood pressure cuff. 😂
Birth centers, home births, water births and an epidural in the hospital. The circumstances have varied greatly, but my love and passion for these things have not changed. You can read my 2nd born’s birth story here. (He was almost born in the car!) and I also blogged about the home waterbirth of my 7th baby here.
Hear From My Clients
Jenny is an AMAZING doula!! She helped us through the birth of our 1st child.
We hired a Doula to help us through the birthing process for support and knowledge, as I suffer from anxiety and my husband is very much an introvert—has a hard time processing emotion. Jenny was there for us every step of the way….helping me through times of feeling anxious and educating and encouraging my husband on the birthing process.
During delivery Jenny’s calming presence helped me stay calm and collected during a time I would normally be overly anxious.
As well, with her encouragement, my husband was present and participating in the labor—when and where he could be.
Before having a Doula my husband did not want to be anywhere near the labor room, after having a Doula my husband stayed with me the whole time, offered words of encouragement, helped with calming/soothing techniques during contractions, “looked” as our baby girl was being born and cut the umbilical cord.
Having Jenny was such a blessing! A Doula is there to support both you (the pregnant one) and your husband.
Jenny was an amazing doula! We met a few times prior to me going into labor and she truly listened and understood how I wanted my birth plan to go. She was in my corner every step of the way and was a great advocate for me during those tough contractions! She was able to coach me through mentally, physically and emotionally and was able to translate what was happening to my husband. I highly recommend Jenny!
Jenny was very thorough in our meetings before the birth so she knew exactly what was needed when I was actually in labor. She showed up exactly at the right time, coached me through contractions and knew exactly when it was time to head out. She had the exact words to say to comfort me when I got emotional and helped my husband know what to do and say as well. She even snapped a couple photos. Definitely recommend.
I was very blessed to have Jenny Ervin assisted me while in labor with our first child, in 2011. I hadn’t known her for very long, but her professional and warm approach, combined with her skill in helping to alleviate pain and problem solve was so very helpful. She truly helped to make the labor more bearable with her knowledge and support. Being a doula is truly a gift she possesses.
We had Jenny as our doula for our first baby and she helped us tremendously. Both my wife and I have never really been around babies and definitely didn’t know what to expect with birthing our own. Jenny really helped us know what to expect and feel really prepared. She was with us during our 30+ hour birth and was invaluable in making both myself and wife feel constant support. I definitely recommend her to anyone looking for a doula.
Why a Doula?
When I had my first baby I had been preparing to be a midwife. I had been at births and a part of the experience several times. I was no stranger to the process of labor and delivery. My husband was more supportive than most men, and I had amazing midwives to assist me in my desire for an unmedicated birth.
But, do you know what happened? The minute my labor became intense while I wanted my husband’s continual touch and closeness, it was my mama’s face that I sought. I needed another woman who had been through what I was going through to help me, encourage me, and even anticipate my every need. You see, my mother was my doula even though I had not planned that all out.
A doula in the greek means “Servant Woman” and that is exactly what my role is.
A doula allows your husband to give you that tenderness you need and frees him up to be with you in whatever way you desire without heavy expectations that he himself might be unsure of.
A doula frees up your midwives (if you are at home or birth center) to attend to your physical needs as they prepare for the birth of your baby.
A doula also can assist in seeing what needs the husband and the midwives might have, such as a snack or cup of tea.
A doula stays with you constantly when a nurse (if you are at the hospital) can only come and go.
A doula is available for questions before and after that you might not be sure if you want to bother your midwife with or you can’t ask your doctor.
A doula can be there from the moment you want her to stay with you, even in the early stages of labor before it’s time to call the primary caregiver.
A doula is a support to you during labor helping with your breathing through your contractions and offering ways to cope with the pain.
A doula can assist you after the birth in breastfeeding, caring for your other children, assisting you with needs in your house, yes even washing dishes
In Summary: A doula role is what in years gone by the older women of the community would have filled. We are in an isolated society, many times far away from family, and expected to be independent of each other. A doula is an emotional, mental, oftentimes spiritual, and physical support in whatever way that is needed during this beautiful season.
My Birthing Support is born out of many years of passion for this season in a woman’s life, many life experiences (including 8 children), and a desire to serve.
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I would love to chat with you more about how we can personalize our services specifically for your family’s needs? Email: UpstateFamilyDoula@gmail.com